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Why You Need a Smart Dating Strategy for 2019

Everywhere I go, I hear guys saying the same thing.

Online dating is frustrating.

Clubs and bars are annoying and shallow.

And it just seems like meeting COOL people is harder than ever.

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And you know what?

Dating *IS* harder than ever.

Especially if you don’t have a strategy.

What do I mean about a strategy?

Well, first off, most guys don’t have a dating strategy. They just want to “meet someone”. Maybe they just want to have some fun. But they don’t really know what they want.

Because they don’t know what they want, they make two mistakes.

First, they come across like they have low standards. They come across needy and desperate.

And neediness is the kiss of death for attraction.

Second, they wind up focusing their time and energy on women they don’t really have anything in common with. While also making simple mistakes that drive good women away.

And that means frustration.

When I help a guy create a smart dating strategy, we start by thinking carefully about the kind of person you really want to date. The kind of person that would make you happy to give up your single life and that you would enjoy settling down with. 

Once you know that, you can start thinking carefully about what she is really like, and what she is looking for.

We get into HER mind. To understand HER values and priorities.

And that really changes the way you approach dating.

Suddenly, you’re no longer trying to meet just anyone who meets your minimum standards, you’re looking for your ideal.

Neediness starts to go out the window, because you have real standards.

And women start to notice. Especially, the women who meet your standards, who are pleased to meet a man who appreciates them for who they are.

When you have a smart dating strategy, it’s easier to meet women, because you know where to go.

It’s easier to make conversation, because you already have an idea of what topics she likes to talk about.

It’s easier to get attraction, because you actually have something in common with her.

It’s easier to be confident, because you already KNOW what she would like about you.

It’s easier to handle rejection because you know when you really just don’t have anything in common.

For a lot of guys, a smart dating strategy is the thing they need to get their dating life out of a rut.

Which is why it’s the first thing I do when you sign up for my phone coaching packages. We spend our first session creating a vision of your ideal relationship, and work back from there.

So you’re not just getting advice that is customized to your personal situation, but also to your personal dating goals.

It’s one of those things you can’t really get anywhere else.

If you’re interested in signing up, I still have a few spots available for next month. Click the link below to sign up for a free consult.

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I'm Chris Shepherd, and I'm a professional dating coach for men operating out of Toronto. My goal is to create empowered individuals who can achieve their goals in work, dating and life, and who can contribute positively to society.

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