Reader Brandon sent in this great question for the V-Day Q&A
Love everything you’re about! Thank you for your time and knowledge🏻
My question is…been dating a girl for a couple months. Went to make reservations for dinner here in San Diego. They were all booked up. Now what?
She doesn’t care what we do??
I think there are a lot of guys who can relate to this problem.
Your date plans get screwed up…
And your date says “I don’t care what we do”.
But here’s the question – Does “I don’t care what we do” really mean that she doesn’t care?
Does it mean you can just microwave some pizza pops and otherwise do nothing?
Of course not.
“I don’t care what we do” is like “I don’t care what you get me for Christmas” or “I don’t care if we do anything for my birthday”.
It’s a trap.
What it really means is “I don’t want you to feel too much pressure, but I still expect something nice”.
It is not permission to be lazy.
Now, the good news is that GENERALLY, depending on your date, you can get away with something that is not very expensive, so long as it is thoughtful. It really is the thought that counts, for most women.
And you’re only a few months into this relationship, so expectations should be relatively low.
Cooking is one of those things that is nice and thoughtful but also relatively easy to pull off last minute. If you lack cooking skills, this dish is nice and impressive yet requires very little skill. Add a side dish, some nice music, some flowers and you’re not doing that bad.
And it sure beats pizza pops.
Other options include checking out ethnic restaurants and hole-in-the wall places, many of which fill up late on Valentines day. There’s no reason you can’t also order food in, so long as you show a bit of effort in some other way (decor, flowers, etc).
Don’t worry man, you have almost 48 hours to put this thing together.
Good luck… and thanks for sending me your question.
P.S. I will be answering a few more questions over the next 24 hours or so as part of my V-Day Q&A.
And I’m still taking submissions. So send those babies in.