I wanted to address a subject that has come up every once in a while with my clients: the idea of “Toxic Masculinity”.
There are a lot of people who are deeply invested in pushing the idea that masculinity is somehow a bad thing. That when a young man commits a crime, it’s his masculinity that caused it.
These people aren’t deep thinkers, and they are wrong.
They might call themselves feminists, but they don’t really have any particular affection towards the feminine.
Instead, these people just really hate men.
I saw this retort to the idea of “Toxic Masculinity” on twitter, and I think it’s pretty much hits the nail on the head.
If masculinity were truly toxic, then kids growing up without dads would presumably be better off than those who have them. But, they're not: they tend to be more depressed, aggressive & criminal. Truth is: we need more masculinity in society, not less.–> https://t.co/d14nR3f2ED— Allie Beth Stuckey (@conservmillen) March 9, 2018
Don’t let these people fool you, throughout history, masculinity has always been a powerful force for good.
The people who built our civilization were masculine men. They weren’t perfect, but they did a hell of a lot of good.
The people who go on about “Toxic Masculinity” make a big mistake.
They make an obvious fallacy but they don’t care.
They presume that “toxicity” and “masculinity” are related. But, they are not.
Toxicity,(i.e. evil), is as old as humanity itself, and if you want to learn about the nature of evil you should read the Bible or Dhammapada or one of the countless books on the problem of evil.
Masculinity, on the other hand, is a noble thing. It’s the yang, strength, reason, honour, self sacrifice and order.
Yes, men can be toxic, as can women. But the concept of “Toxic Masculinity” does nothing to solve this problem.
Instead, the idea of “Toxic Masculinity” teaches men to hate what is good in them, and to love what is weak and false and cowardly.
It weakens and confuses good men, and holds them back.
In your dating life, it’s crucial that you are in tune with your masculinity. Not ashamed of it.
If you want to really tap into your inner power, you can’t be someone who hates a part of himself.
Buying into that ideology of self hatred can leave you frustrated, angry, depressed, unable to take action and unable to be a force for good in the world.
Ironically, that internalized self-hatred will make you toxic.
To eliminate the toxicity, you need to embrace your masculinity. You should love and accept masculine side of you.
The women in your life will thank you.
What are your thoughts about “Toxic Masculinity”? Share them in the comments below.