One common congruence test that men get on a regular basis is the classic: “are you hitting on me?”
This question puts a man into a double bind – answer yes, and you are admitting that you have a (shameful) hidden motive to your conversation. Answer no and you are lying or hiding something.
The “test” here is that she is seeing whether you are ashamed of why you are talking to her.
So, how do you pass the test?
Simple – tell the truth and don’t be ashamed of it.
There’s a lot of power in telling the truth. It shows confidence and it builds trust. A man who has the confidence to say what he really believes is an attractive man.
But, in order to really tell the truth confidently, you need to be at peace with your actions.
That means you really need to believe that there is nothing wrong with hitting on a woman.
There might be something wrong with hitting on a woman badly.
There is certainly something wrong with hitting on a woman rudely, creepily, or disgustingly drunkenly. (Thankfully, if you follow my blog you will know not to do that).
But there is *nothing* wrong with being fun and outgoing and starting a conversation with a woman you’re interested in.
Just like there is *nothing wrong* with being a man. And acting like one.
So, with this in mind, when a woman asks “Are you hitting on me?” what is your response?
A) Yes, is it working?
B) You’re very perceptive, I like that.
C) You seem cool, but we should just be friends.
D) I’m just asking questions for now, but I’ll probably hit on you later if I like the answers.
Post your answers in the comments.
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