One of the more common slanders that ill-informed misandrist bloggers and journalists have leveled at Lovesystems is that we teach men to “grope” women as part of our method. Fortunately, dispelling myths is something I enjoy doing.
The fact is, touch is a crucial element in creating chemistry. A a polite, 3-4 foot conversational distance is a pretty sure way to PREVENT chemistry from developing between two people – but close that gap, put a soft hand on the arm or a reassuring pat on the shoulder, and suddenly the odds of chemistry developing skyrockets. This is the concept of “kino” (touch) which is one of the basic tools every guy who wants to improve his odds with women should understand.
Now, it turns out the New York Times, which blogger Roissy loves to hate, but which I regularly enjoy, has shown that more Lovesystems techniques are getting scientific backing. This particular article cites studies which show that touch increases feelings of comfort and commonality, and that sports teams that touch more tend to do better.
What does this mean for game? Simply put, it means that when you open a set, you need to TOUCH right away. I’m not talking about a sexual ass grab or a weird poke, but simply a normal, friendly, touchy gesture (imagine you’re Italian). Touching makes women feel more comfortable around you (unless the woman possesses a deep-seated hostility towards men/people, in which case take pleasure in making her feel uncomfortable). Furthermore, it makes you look more “alpha”, and therefore more desirable.
And as for grabbing a woman’s ass? Once a woman is into you, a little ass grab is totally acceptable, and appreciated. But smoother moves are called for in most situations.