Last Friday, I sat down for an interview with a reporter for the New York Times.
The subject of the interview was “The Crisis of Masculinity”, and it was related to the work I’ve done both as a dating coach, and as the original organizer of the Jordan Peterson Meetup group in Toronto.
People warned me not do do the interview.
They warned me that the Times would try to make me look bad. They’d make me out to be a creep or sexist.
But I did the interview anyways.
I did the interview because I believe that when you do the right thing, and speak your mind in a clear and honest way, things will always work out for you in the end.
That’s been my approach throughout my entire career as a dating coach.
I teach stuff that is positive and helps people. And if the haters don’t like it…. who cares.
So, here’s the gist of what I told the New York Times.
Is there a “Crisis in Masculinity”? Yes.
Will we solve it? Yes we will solve it.
How will we solve it? There is going to be a huge change in our collective mindset.
The problem right now is people who think that gender relations are a zero-sum game.
The idea that empowering women requires putting men down. Or vice versa.
That’s simply untrue. Building men up benefits everyone.
And putting men down, as a group, is harmful to everyone.
You can’t fix what is bad in men unless you strengthen what is good in them.
And if you don’t strengthen what is good in him, then what is bad takes over.
That’s where your so-called “Toxic Masculinity” comes from.
My job, as a dating coach, is strengthening what is good in the guys I teach. I want to make them more confident, more outgoing, more charming, more influential.
And when men learn those skills, they learn how to better meet their own needs, romantically and socially.
And that’s better for everyone.
The New York Times article is supposed to come out later this week.
Maybe it will be a hit job.
But I honestly believe that there is a massive cultural shift happening as we speak. I can feel the winds changing…. it’s exciting…
In the meantime, I’m going to keep speaking up….
Thanks so much for your support and please reply to let me know what you think about the so-called “Crisis of Masculinity”.