Last week I talked about the stink of neediness and how having standards can help eliminate neediness.
But let’s talk a bit about WHY neediness is so toxic.
Neediness doesn’t just kill your ability to create attraction in your dating life.
It can also screw up job interviews.
It can screw up negotiations.
It can make you pay too much for a car, an apartment, a house.
But the question is, WHY is neediness such a kiss of death.
The late great Jim Camp (the “World’s Most Feared Negotiator”) had a theory for it.
“Human beings are predatory apes”.
Harsh, but it carries more than a little truth.
Human beings can sense neediness like a shark smells blood in the water.
And when we sense it, it triggers something instinctual and emotional in us.
When you give off neediness, you repel good people, and start drawing sharks and predators into your life.
It’s a bad way to live.
But there’s some good news too.
The good news is, nobody NEEDS to be needy when it comes to relationships.
After all, it’s not food, it’s not water. You don’t die without it.
Anyone, even the biggest loser in the world, can afford to have standards when it comes to dating.
So, having standards, and killing neediness, is entirely within the reach of every single person reading this post.
You just need to figure out what your standards are. Maybe you just need to believe that you’re worthy of having standards in the first place.
One of the first things I do with guys when help them create a Smart Dating Strategy is we focus on really establishing what you are looking for in a relationship, and what you are NOT looking for.
Not only does this help you create a customized program to turn around your dating life, but it also can help you kill neediness and all the problems that surround it.
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