Every once in a while, I get hate mail from guys who have their undies in a knot for some reason or other. Today I got a good one so I thought I would share it with you.
“Hey Chris. I saw your promotions for the Art of Attraction. Why don’t you just be honest with people and admit that success in dating is all about looks? There’s nothing you can do about your looks so stop wasting your time! – Jason”
Back in the day, I used to try to reach out to guys like this. After all, I understand how Jason can blame his looks for his problems. It’s easy to think, after a string of bad dates or online rejections, that your dating problems are outside your control.
I’m not attractive enough.
The world is against me.
There’s nothing wrong with thinking those thoughts. They’re a natural response to the frustration that guys experience on the dating market over and over.
Things really are hard for guys out there.
We all have a little voice in our head that thinks like Jason does, and most of us have influences in our lives that encourage us to think more like Jason.
It’s normal to have a critic like Jason in your head.
But you don’t want to be Jason.
As I said before, I used to reach out to guys like Jason, but I stopped. Time and time again I tried to help guys like this but I realized that guys like Jason don’t want a solution, they don’t want to get better.
They just want to complain.
“Your advice isn’t new” (it’s not)
“It’s too simple” (it is simple)
“Are you kidding me? There’s no way something like that would work on the outrageously entitled obnoxious women who live in my city” (it does)
And you know what, those guys, time and time again, are proven wrong. The fact is some guys out there are deeply invested in the idea that getting better with women HAS to be hard. They don’t WANT it to be easy. After all, it would be a bit embarrassing to find out that, after years of frustration, the secrets to improving your dating life were actually relatively simple, easy to implement and common sense.
As you can see this is just ego protection – guys like Jason can’t admit that they are doing badly with women because they are failing to do just a few *simple* things that would make their dating life infinitely easier and more rewarding.
That’s not to say that what I teach is generic or something you can find elsewhere. In fact, the stuff you’re going to learn in The Art of Attraction is completely original, designed by me over 10 years of intense experience and experimentation, and is based off of some of the most cutting edge marketing, psychology and sales research that I could get my hands on. I’m not re-packaging ideas out there on the internet or providing the same kind of banal lukewarm “nice guy” advice that you can get from mens magazines or TV.
What I’m teaching is “not new” in the sense that I’m just teaching what charming, relaxed guys who are good with women already do naturally – what’s unique is that I’m able to break this behaviour down into something that your average guy (I.e. You) can learn and implement naturally. I put a LOT of work into simplifying this knowledge and producing a program that can create massive change in your behaviour and results in a minimum amount of time.
When you take this program, I guarantee you that you will think two things – first, you’re going to think to yourself “Really? Is it really that easy? Surely if something this simple actually worked than more guys would be doing it?“. But you’re also going to realize that actually most guys are not doing the kind of stuff I advocate, and that there’s a finesse in what I’m teaching you. It’s that finesse that makes all the difference.
The second thing you’re going to think is “Holy crap! I wish I had started doing this earlier” because every minute you spend being frustrated over women is a complete waste of your time. Let me emphasize this to you in the clearest terms possible: there is no reason for you to be frustrated and suffering in your dating life – getting on top of this problem is easy and achievable (after all, literally 100% of your ancestors were successful with women, why not you?).
Human beings were meant to be good at this (Citation: Darwin, C. (1860). The Origin of the Species), and the state of frustration that many men are experiencing is wholly unnatural and caused (in my opinion) by disgustingly bad advice peddled by Hollywood, the media and opinionated idiots of all sorts.
Anyway, in conclusion I’ll leave with a quote from a student of mine, a guy who, like Jason, thought he was “not good looking enough” to get the kinds of women he desired.
“I had various problem areas before working with Chris. They probably were all rooted in the fact that I felt inferior to very beautiful women and thought they didn’t like me based on my looks. It showed up in me not being confident enough in first dates and in off-date communication, where I felt rejected too early without proper evidence. It also showed up in missing confidence to walk up and talk to girls that I saw and liked.With Chris’s help, I learned to think differently and actually appreciate my own looks. I feel now that any woman would like me based on looks alone. If things don’t work out I understand it may have multiple reasons and take it way less personally. At the same time, I act much more confident around women, be it when going out and meeting them the first time, or be it in my communication between dates, where I am now able to talk to women on the phone frequently and with ease — something I hadn’t considered before.
My dating life right now is crazy and I need to really filter with who I decide to spend my time with. I am getting so many compliments and opportunities with women, it seems almost weird sometimes. Last weekend alone, I first-time kissed three different women, all of which are currently or were at some point legit models. The funny thing is they even know about the competition and call me out for being a ‘heartbreaker’ in a joking way.
Ok, I haven’t really found the one person yet that I want to spend a prolonged amount of time with, but I clearly have set the stage for it. Also, I clearly have worked through my issues with my self-perception. -George”
We all have an inner Jason, and we all have an inner George.
Listen to your inner George
P.S. The cart for the Art of Attraction is closing TOMORROW at midnight. Class starts Thursday. You snooze, you loose.