Last month, a student leaned into me and, with a hushed voice, told me one of his deepest and darkest secrets.
“I think I want to date women who are a bit more conservative”
He looked kind of ashamed as he said it.
“I have been dating online and in real life, and… I keep meeting women that are kind of… umm…. I mean, I consider myself pretty liberal but umm…. well, I don’t want to date a girl who is a Trump supporter or anything but…”
I told him he didn’t need to say anything more – I understand.
Usually, the desire to date someone “conservative” isn’t really about politics.
Very few (sane) people actually care about the political opinions of their romantic partners.
But what is important – and what people really care about is values.
Maybe you are looking for someone who is more religious/spiritual, and who is more oriented towards family values.
These qualities *tend* to lean to the conservative side, but you’ll find a lot of so-called “liberal” people who also have a spiritual and family values side – and who might make great partners.
By focusing on what you really care about (values) rather than more superficial traits (politics), you can do a better job of connecting with people you really like.
And, most importantly, when you are dating and looking for a certain set of values, rather than a political orientation, you can avoid pointless and awkward political conflicts.
Finding someone who has the right values is an important part of a smart dating strategy.
And if you do it right, you can know exactly what to say (on an online dating profile, or in a conversation) to help connect with people who share your values.
Without getting caught up in politics or other related boulshyte.
It’s one of the things I work with guys on in my coaching sessions.
Identifying your key values and how to connect with women who share those values.
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