Letting go of guilt and shame is an important part of being a confident man. But how do you do that without becoming an asshole? Aaron was standing by the bar in an upscale pub in Toronto, it was 10:30 and he still hadn’t approached a girl yet. He was sipping a vodka soda […]
Inner Game Archives
Inner Game in Dating is all about learning to overcome the inner obstacles to creating attraction from women. Fear, anxiety and self-doubt are the enemies, confidence and relaxed competence are the goals. In the end, improving your inner game is the best thing you can do for your love life. Here is an archive of Inner Game related advice, for your reference.
One of our good commenters (commentators?) who goes by “A Feminist” wrote an intelligent and thoughtful response to my Death of The Boyfriend post that deserves some front-page attention. I agree with you that people today aren’t necessarily sleeping with a higher quantity of partners, rather just not in bf/gf situations. But I think the […]
One of the niggling insecurities that I remember having in university was the vague feeling that not only was everyone working harder than me and getting better grades than me, but they were also probably having more fun and more sex too. Turns out I was wrong – people were working harder then me but […]
In March, I talked about “The Power of Makeup” and exposed how powerful makeup can be in changing the way men perceive female beauty, and how limiting beliefs around beauty can hold men back from dating the women they like, and from liking the women they date. But illusions about beauty cut both ways. A lot […]
The good people at WGN Morning News interviewed me today on the secrets of confidence in dating. The video is below. It’s hard to summarize the kind of stuff we teach at Love Systems into the kinds of short sound-bites that are suitable for a Friday morning news show. Anyway, I tried to summarize some of what I […]
A lot of the time, the problems that men have with women and with game are psychological in nature. I’m not talking about serious psychological problems, but rather psychological blocks, or “sticking points” that even emotionally healthy people have and which prevent them from really using the knowledge and skills that they already have. People who have […]